Femmes With Beards


I’d usually never let anyone touch my dolls but I recently found out my nephew(who is 5) absolutely adores dolls, he particularly likes the Legacy Day ones. He’s the first person besides myself I’ve ever let touch with my dolls. He loves brushing their hair and switching around their outfits. He’s surpassinglt even quite respectful of the dolls and doesn’t cause much if any damage at all. My brother and sister in law are quite rigid in the way they raise him and would be furious if they found out I allowed him to play with dolls at my house. My nephew and I are keeping it our special little secret now but I’m truly terrified of what when happen when his parents find out(which I’m sure they eventually will). He has every right to play with pretty girl dolls but his my brother would never allow his son to play with “girls toys” it breaks my heart for my nephew.I really don’t know what to do but I’d never dream of banning him from something he loves just to appease his bigoted parents but at the same time I don’t want his bigoted parents to ban him from seeing me.
(photo credit, also an nice article)

Just THIS. THIS so much:

■ Human Rights Campaign president: "HRC has done wrong by the transgender community"


Chad Griffin, president of the Human Rights Campaign, gave a powerful, almost shocking keynote speech at the Southern Comfort Conference in Atlanta this week. In the speech, he apologized for the organization’s past mistreatment of transgender people.

Griffin also announced HRC’s renewed commitment to trans equality, including a fully inclusive antidiscrimination bill, tackling antitrans violence, pushing for equal bathroom and public accommodations access, and opposing the “womyn-born-womyn” policy at the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. 

The link above includes the full speech, but here’s an excerpt:

So I am here today, at Southern Comfort, to deliver a message. I deliver it on behalf of HRC, and I say it here in the hopes that it will eventually be heard by everyone who is willing to hear it.

HRC has done wrong by the transgender community in the past, and I am here to formally apologize.

I am sorry for the times when we stood apart when we should have been standing together.

Even more than that, I am sorry for the times you have been underrepresented or unrepresented by this organization.

What happens to trans people is absolutely central to the LGBT struggle. And as the nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization, HRC has a responsibility to do that struggle justice, or else we are failing at our fundamental mission.

I came here today in the hopes that we can begin a new chapter together. But I also came here to tell you the truth. We’re an organization that is evolving. We may make mistakes. We may stumble. But what we do promise is to work with you sincerely, diligently, with a grand sense of urgency, listening and learning every step of the way.

And I also want to be clear that I’m not asking you to be the ones to take the first leap of faith. That’s our job. My mom taught me that respect isn’t given, it’s earned.

Read the whole thing. Holy crap. 

é  4787  û    —    9:48am


"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…
"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)
Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.
the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 
the policy revision includes
-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system
-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students
-preferred names/pronouns on all school records
-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them
-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums
the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 
the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 
these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue
metro news
global BC
huffington post
■ #MyNameIs - Drag Queens Protest "Real Names" Policy at Facebook HQ! | Facebook


Hey guys! I wanted to take a moment to post about this protest that is happening TOMORROW in the Bay Area in California. This is something that is impacting many of my friends, peers, and people who I’ve photographed. Please come out if you’re available and in the area!

Facebook has recently been cracking down on drag queens, locking us out of our profiles until we change our names to our “real names.” But Facebook is picking a fight with the wrong crowd: we know REALNESS isn’t the name we were given at birth, it’s the name we kiki with online and off! We invite EVERYONE to join us in a massive protest of this tired policy — everyone has a right to control their identity online!

!!! PROTEST !!!
Tuesday, September 16
9:30am*: meet at the Castro Safeway to get on the bus or carpool!
… or join us at 11am at the Facebook HQ: 1 Hacker Way, Menlo Park, CA

(Even if it’s your first time!)
Categories include: Tech Executive Realness, Social Media Starlet, etc etc etc.

If you have a car (or car share!), please bring it so we can shuttle as many people as we can! We’ll start with the bus, but are hoping to bring a HUGE turnout!

Of course, drag queens aren’t the only ones affected by this — we’re just the ones with the big mouths! This issue affects a lot of marginalized, creative, and professional communities, including transgender people, bullied youth, activists, LGBTQ people who aren’t out everywhere, survivors of domestic violence and stalking, migrants, sex workers, artists who work under pseudonyms, and various professionals who work in sensitive professions (eg. mental health, criminal justice, etc.) who may want to interact with friends without being found by clients. Facebook claims that its “real name” policy helps protect people from bullying, but this is a form of targeting our communities that can actually make us much less safe. Facebook is today’s public forum and they can’t exclude us — who are they to say we or anyone else isn’t “real”?!

Stay tuned here for more details!

If you want to help out, email heygirl@lilmisshotmess.com!

*Yes queen, it’s early but, like, REAL IMPORTANT! xo.

é  3  û    —    2:27pm
■ http://baronmagdalene.tumblr.com/post/97491112816/issiekay-mount-holyoke-americas-first-all



Mount holyoke, America’s first all women’s college, has LITERALLY just announced that they’re accepting transwomen now this is HUGE


é  7834  û    —    5:29pm
■ This Phone App Helps Transgender Users Change The Pitch And Tone Of Their Voices


buzzfeedlgbt reports on this amazing app:

The app’s website states it will take at least 6 to 12 months to effectively alter one’s voice. This video clip features an example “before and after” segment, having a user sample her “original” and “altered” voice:

As one user of the app put it: “Voice can be a real liability. There are definitely large parts of this country, even this state, where it’s dangerous to be trans. It can be a matter of life or death.”

At just $4.99, this app is a far more affordable option for users than visiting a vocal coach or speech pathologist. What a great resource!

é  8450  û    —    5:24pm


Eddie Izzard - shopping at Mac store in Soho
New York City - May 14, 2014

When I was a kid I saw his HBO special. I watched it so many times I still know most of the words.  It was the first time I saw a man dressed feminine, be funny, and not have women as a punch line. He didn’t slump out in front of the stage embarrassed by his clothing, he came out perfectly happy, hoping around, and didn’t do some silly feminine voice for laughs, he just used his voice, he wore his clothes, spoke about social injustice, and he was fucking funny. It was nice to watch a comedian and not be the fucking punch line or a flattened stereotype for laughs. 


Stardust (2007), dir. Matthew Vaughn

"So what’s the problem?"
"It’s my reputation."
"No, no. Don’t be silly. Nonsense."
"It’s all right, Captain. We always knew you were a whoopsie."

Cara-chan by kayliesaurus-rex


Annie Jones (1860 – 1902) was an American bearded woman, born in Virginia. She toured with showman P. T. Barnum as a circus attraction. 
Photo c.1888 

Fancy ladies with beard FTW